The term verbal abuse is defined as the destructive act of using words or verbal cues that forcefully mistreat, criticize, insult, or harm someone else.

1. Trying to control a partner
2. The partner feeling jealous and possessive

Here are some strategies that would protect yourself from a date rape:
1. If you do not trust or know your date very well, then avoid going alone with him. You can suggest having a group date.
2. Refrain from drinking alcohol and using drugs. This would allow you to stay sober and it would make you aware of what is happening around you.
3. Communicate clearly about your sexual limits.

Having a concrete plan makes sure that you are out of harm’s way. It prevents you from being violated.

They need help in breaking the cycle of violence. Through counseling, they can learn how to cope with their feelings and find the appropriate outlet for it.

Abusers were also victims once.

Missy: Please understand that I am doing this out of love and concern. I do not blame you for what you are going through. Do not feel responsible for the way everything has turned out, okay?

Susie: I understand.

Missy: We have known each other for so long that I see you as my sister. It pains me whenever I see that you are hurt.

Susie: Hey, I appreciate it, but I am okay. You don’t have to worry.

Missy: How are you really feeling? Be honest with me.

Susie: Struggling, I guess. I am so scared. I know he didn’t mean it. He already said he was sorry. He said that he’s going to change.

Missy: I see. I was shattered when I found all about the beatings and the way he wants to control you by instilling fear. They may not see any scars yet, but I know that you are emotionally scared.

Susie: I know but it was my fault. I didn’t do what he wanted me to do. I lost track of time. I didn’t know he was waiting for me for hours.

Missy: Always remember that his behavior is not your fault. You are not the reason why he chose to be like that. However, I am just extremely worried that if you do not take it upon yourself to end this relationship, then how will it end?

Susie: I don’t know what I should do.

Missy: I feel like chances are, he might do something that is worse than what he was doing right now. How will I live with myself knowing that I could have done something to help you get out of this miserable situation? I hope it makes sense.

Susie: I’m afraid to be alone.

Missy: I want to tell you that I’ll be here for you every step of the way. Please believe me that you are not alone. We are here for you.

Susie: Thank you. I appreciate it.

Missy: Please understand that I am doing this out of love and concern. I do not blame you for what you are going through. Do not feel responsible for the way everything has turned out, okay?

Susie: I understand.

Missy: We have known each other for so long that I see you as my sister. It pains me whenever I see that you are hurt.

Susie: Hey, I appreciate it, but I am okay. You don’t have to worry.

Missy: How are you really feeling? Be honest with me.

Susie: Struggling, I guess. I am so scared. I know he didn’t mean it. He already said he was sorry. He said that he’s going to change. (Click to see the full solution)

Here is a sample poem about the problem of abuse in relationships:

The same man who made you smile,
His words bring you tears and pain,
Stop thinking that you can fix him,
He’s been this way for too long.

The same man who promised you love,
His love brings shackles and hatred.
Don’t play martyr to his ill hate,
Save yourself instead.