The second paragraph tells us that there is a tendency for a victim to become reluctant in confiding. Therefore, it is best to listen without criticizing and to focus on the abusive behavior than blaming the abuser.

Please understand that I wrote this letter to you out of love and concern. I do not blame you for what you are going through. Do not feel responsible for the way everything has turned out, okay?

We have known each other for so long that I see you as my sister. It pains me whenever I see that you are hurt. I was shattered when I found all about the beatings and the way he wants to control you by instilling fear. They may not see any scars yet, but I know that you are emotionally scared.

Always remember that his behavior is not your fault. You are not the reason why he chose to be like that. However, I am just extremely worried that if you do not take it upon yourself to end this relationship, then how will it end? Chances are, he might do something that is worse than what he was doing right now. How will I live with myself knowing that I could have done something to help you get out of this miserable situation? I hope it makes sense.

I want to tell you that I’ll be here for you every step of the way. Please believe me that you are not alone. We are here for you.

Love,
Your Friend

Please understand that I wrote this letter to you out of love and concern. I do not blame you for what you are going through. Do not feel responsible for the way everything has turned out, okay?

We have known each other for so long that I see you as my sister. It pains me whenever I see that you are hurt. I was shattered when I found all about the beatings and the way he wants to control you by instilling fear. They may not see any scars yet, but I know that you are emotionally scared. (Click to see the full solution)