I am a lucky person. I was raised by a very caring pair of parents with three very good siblings in an extremely affluent town. I attended the best grammar and high schools in the state, continued on to graduate from one of the best universities in the world, and had no idea what to do next. My drive to excel was both internal and externalI really do love success, but I was equally pressured by outside sources to succeed. The advantages I was given served both to help me start ahead of others and stay ahead in life, and to cripple me once I had traveled through those first two decade’s worth of rites of passage.
I have long known that having so many opportunities had simply paralyzed my ability to pick one of them. While I know that my grade school friends were raised in the same environment as I, I have always wondered why they dove quickly and headfirst into their careers while I spent a decade trying to make up my mind. This introductory psychology course is the final prerequisite course I take before I begin medical school in less than one month. While I would have liked to have made this career decision ten years ago, I am glad to have experienced and learned all that I have in my life, for those experiences serve to solidify my resolve in having chosen my future career. Fortunately (and unexpectedly), Carolyn Kalil’s book has helped me to understand myself and my decisions.
I am GREEN. Very green. Actually, my girlfriend s...
tated that I am “anti-blue”. She is probably right. I am rational, logical, love to find, diagnose and solve problems, and I love debate. My original plan in life was to become a lawyer. I took the LSAT in my senior year of college, was accepted almost everywhere I wanted to go, but at the last minute “freaked” that I was making the wrong decision. My fear was two-fold: was I making a rash decision, and would a career as an attorney allow adequate mental stimulation? I chose not to attend, instead embarking on a very different path for the next ten years.
My gold traits are very strong, though not as much as my green traits. My gold tendencies are loyalty, need for efficiency and responsibility. The description of the gold traits seemed to fit me quite well, but the green traits are very overwhelmingly Me. I suppose were I somehow to acquire the trait of decisiveness, I would be nearly equal amounts green and gold. I do occasionally appear to others as a gold. My planned career path of becoming a doctor may seem like one for a goldthe decision to help others with their physical problems. My drive, however, is a bit more self-serving. I love the challenge of trying to identify, diagnose and solve problems, and my years of abusing my body (see explanation in the orange section) have given me a special insight to physical (i.e. orthopaedic) problems. So, while I do not present myself as being purely interested in aiding others, I
also do not discourage the inference made by others.
The next trait in order is orange. I do not see too much of myself in orange. In fact, the only orange traits that I exude at all are risk-taking and athletic prowess. After forgoing law school, I used one of my other abilitiesriding a bicycle very fastto become a professional cyclist and triathlete. While I never had anything near the abilities of the best in the sport, this vocation allowed me to see the world and find new ways to push myself (and body) to its absolute limits. As for risk-taking, while I do not consider that a normal aspect of my personality, my ability to let go of the brakes while careening down a mountain side was one of my strengths in the sport.
Finally, there is blue. This trait revolves around helping and supporting others. As with my explanation with other’s perceptions of my gold traits, people may occasionally perceive me as being blue. I am not. It is my way or the highway. While this may not seem like a very good trait, being a typical green, I have analyzed the heck out of my options before making my final decision. I feel therefore just in having such strong dispositions.
My girlfriend (of two and a half years) is an orange. We get along very well because she is very athletic, very personable, and very funny. While I too share these traits, she is athletic to help herself stay sane and fit; I am athletic to beat other people. She is funny to stay happy; I am funny to make people laugh. I am yin to her yang. Where strife occasionally occurs is in my own understanding of her sociability (she loves having big groups of friends, going to parties, being the life of the party) while I would rather just spend time with her. We do now trade-off on our weekendsone night for her with the group and one night for me just the two of us.
Reading this book enlightened me to understand just how much she has accommodated my personality. She does not force me to wear my emotions on my sleeve. Instead, she lets me know in what ways she could be helped by knowing how I feel in a given scenario. Furthermore, she has helped me to be considerably less frustrated by “stupid” people. She has taught me to accept that other people have different motivations, opinions and abilities and that mine should be mine and their’s should be their’s.
It will be very interesting over the following days and weeks and months as I try to identify the colors for those around me. This will be in part to satisfy my green needs (diagnose and problem solve) and partly to help me interact with the other people of different “colors” in my life. That is probably the most useful aspect of this bookunderstanding our interactions with those closest to us. I will try to no longer become frustrated with blues, instead embrace their differing abilities and how they might complement my own. I
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