The management of grief Essay Example

Kusum has been seeking advice from a swami in Toronto to get her through this terrible time.Shaila and Kusum are two widows accompanied by four other widowers who have chosen to spend the day away from the hospital where the "relatives" as they are now called are supposed to wait so that they photographs of the dead bodies found from the site of the crash can be shown to them, and once they claim the bodies of the dead as their dead relatives they can take them back to India to bury them. Shaila finds that the Irish were a lot more comforting and understanding than the Canadians.

Both Shaila and Kusum now wade into the water looking at a small head like structure bobbing in the water. Kusum says that according to her swami it is selfish to grieve the death of a loved one as they are in a better place than us. Dr. Ranganathan one of the widowers starts a conversation with Shaila and says "It's a parents duty to hope," as he hears Shaila and Kusum's conversation about Shaila's fourteen year old son, Vinod being an expert swimmer who had also won medals. Shaila is thinking that maybe her older son swam to a close by island or islet and also took his younger brother along with him, just incase they were alive Shaila sets, Vinod's pocket calculator, her younger son Mithun's model B-52 plane and a poem she had written for her husband telling him exactly how she felt for him, afloat on the water.

They then return to the hospital, where Shaila is made to go through some more photographs,

to identify here family, but she has no luck in doing so.She considers Kusum to be luck as she found the bodies of her loved ones and will be able to fly them back to India where they will be buried after the proper ceremonies. They go back to India now Kusum and Shaila take the same flight back home. On landing they are stopped by a customs officer who will not let them go and refuses to take charge as he claims that his boss is taking a break.

Shaila gets angry and starts scolding the man who then lets them through. In India Shaila is a single daughter of rich parents. They urge her to stay longer asking her why she would want to go back to Canada to live all alone in the cold.After the fourth month of her stay in India with her parents Shaila travels across all the religious places for pilgrims. In these places she is sought out by astrologers and palm readers who for a fee will give her consolations. She describes how many of the widowers are being set up for remarriage by their families, against their wishes.

She says that she is comparatively luck as no one sets up a widow for remarriage.Six months and three days after her trip to India when Shaila and her mother are in a small temple in a tiny Himalayan village Shaila see the ghost of her husband next to the sadhu who is performing a ritual. Vikram, her husband tells her to go back to Canada and finish what they had started out to accomplish a long time back.

And so once they get out of the temple Shaila makes up her mind to go back to Canada much against her parent's wishes. Because of this experience she attains some amount of closure.