Classification Essay Why People Flirt

I want to see if they will flirt back with me. On the other hand, flirting sometimes becomes a “social fallback position”.

We all learn rules for how to behave in certain situations and flirting makes it easier for people to know how to act, even when they are nervous. In other words, when in doubt, we flirt (Luscombe). I agree that flirting can help you feel more comfortable when in new social situations, that may make you feel awkward. I know that when I go to meet a group of new people and there are lots of guys I may automatically flirt so that I can feel confident and comfortable. In my opinion, flirting can also make people more receptive to you because you seem more approachable and forthcoming.

If I enter a social situation and flirt it makes it easier for me to talk to people and it makes me seem more like im willing to meet new people and talk. And then there are women or men who know the power of flirting, meaning trying to have a certain amount of personal gain from flirting. In other words, flirting can be used as emotional capital to be expended in return for something else. Not usually for money, but for intangibles- a better table, a juicier cut of meat, a cheaper ticket to a movie, thing like that.

It’s a handy social lubricant, reducing the friction of everyday transactions, and closer to a strategically timed tip than a romantic overture (Luscombe). I think I perform this act of flirting the most, I know that if I do just a little bit of flirting I can get

a shirt I want at a cheaper price, a ride home instead of having to catch the bus or free food. This act also seems to have the most drawbacks, when you flirt with someone they may do something for you but they will often times expect things in return. They may expect a date, your phone number, or even a favor in return for what they did for you.

Flirting can be performed in many different ways for many different reasons. Sometimes unconsciously, to make ourselves more comfortable and approachable in new social situations, or even to get people to give us special treatment and discounts where they wouldn’t normally. Flirting is a universal act that will never loose its relevance in society.

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