Strong-Willed Child Book Report
Strong-Willed Child Book Report

Strong-Willed Child Book Report

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  • Published: October 30, 2017
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There once was a little girl with a curl in the middle of her forehead and when she was good she was very very good and when she was bad she was horrid. ” That is the poem my mother used to recite to me when I was being “strong-willed”. Jokingly, I believe it is Just a proper way of saying difficult; also known to my mother as stubborn, defiant and full of steam. One story in particular she described me as crying so angrily that my tears came shooting straight out. There may perhaps be some exaggeration there.

Fast forward almost 25 years later and I gave birth to my ere own little six pound ten ounce “nightmare”. My mother feels Joy knowing I am getting what I gave. Isn’t that sweet? Dry. James Dobson in his bestseller book “The New Strong-willed Child” guides bewildered Christian parent’s (like me and my mother) into better understanding their little Napoleonic brutes, giving them the tools they need to be successful in one of the most challenging roles, a parent of a strong-willed child. The original strong-willed child book was one of the first books that he had written after leaving college in 1977.

Since then there have been nearly 3 million copies sold in numerous languages. Dobson revised the original due to more recent discoveries in child development as well as determining which methods Dobson suggested were successful or not. Dobson stands firm that strong-willed children need wise parent’s who will persevere to insure they will grow into healthy adults. The wisdom parent’s need involves a well thought out &#

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8220;game plan” as Dobson calls it. Without it, it appears to be like being in a boat without a paddle. To raise any child you need tools, but a strong-willed child is even more desperately in need for them.

Dobson encourages parent’s to be guided between the principles of love ND control. Although not always easy, it can subdue the amount or level of animosity between parent and child. Strong-willed children often pull parent’s in the direction of constant yelling without compromise or are at the mercy of their little dictator. These are not preferable to either parent or child. The balance of love and control is optimal for positive results. Dobbin’s book goes into great detail throughout this book to lead Christian parent’s in the way the one who created them instructs in scripture.

Dobson assures parent’s that children are naturally driven to challenge their aren’t, so strong-willed children have an even stronger drive to do this. He writes about the “confrontation of wills” that strong-willed children carry out. Strong-willed children often believe that to follow in obedience is proceeded by challenges. Before respect comes into play, a parent must prove they are worthy of that respect. Dobson states that it is imperative that discouraged parent’s need to come to that realization so they can better respond to their strong-willed child.

These children push their parent’s’ button to find out who is the toughest. Dobson believes that aren’t need to come out on top in the game Dobson calls “Challenge

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the Chief”. If you do not win this game, it will repeat until you nip it in the bud. Dobson goes on to say that it is not at all surprising, because from the beginning of creation we have displayed the same willfully defiant behavior. Original sin comes from our natural inclination to feed our self-will. So it is not so shocking that we continue that Demeanor to tens very clay.

Parent’s must accept Ana wall tens talent canalling Tanat their children bring, so the child will gain the respect for their parent’s that is needed, which will direct them into obedience. According to Dobson there are several temperaments outside of being strong-willed. He believes that temperaments are embedded in us before we are even born. That they do not have to be promoted, they Just are. Dobson describes the easy going child who is driven to bring Joy to his parent’s. They loved to be liked and will do what is needed to achieve that. He also brings to light, the “sneaky’ temperamental child.

They do not directly challenge their parent’s, but they desire the same control as the strong-willed. They will lie, scheme and do what it takes to get their agenda fed. Dobson writes that many parent’s are in blame and shame mode. They accuse themselves for the household problems and are shamed by the parent’s of “good kids”. Dobson goes on to state that all children have their difficulties and that strong-willed kids may be tough cookies, they are exactly as God made them and with the correct temperance of love and control they too can come around. To help our kids we must first understand the personality that God has given them.

Raising children is not a one size fits all occupation. Dry. Dobson introduces mothers and their strong-willed children to show intimate and real dialogue. These interviews give greater insight into the hearts and minds of the individuals and families caught in this strong-willed storm. The consensus is that perseverance, prayer, love and firmness is the formula for success. In the end, it appears that results are favorable if the parent takes the time and energy to devote to their child. Dobson discusses how we live in a society that has “experts” who are giving bogus advice in regard to parenting.

Some experts feel that parent’s would benefit by getting rid of their authoritative position, whereas the child will thrive better. This is referred to as permissive parenting. Dobson feels this is nonsense, where deep within a child is the want for protection. When the parent does not provide this, the child becomes resentful because of their lack of concern. Another expert focused on a “positive” parenting and discipline method. This method to Dobson was as equally absurd, as it Just ignored the willful disobedience. Just because you ignore the elephant, does not mean it is not in the room!

These methods according to Dobson take more energy from the parent than Just dealing head on with their strong-willed child. Once the child understands who is in charge, it is Just a matter of

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