Chapter 5: Intimacy – Flashcards
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Intimacy
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emotional connection. NOT the same as sex. Sex is an expression of intimacy and is sometimes connected. NOT selfish. about the other person.
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collectivist cultures intimacy
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individuals define their identity in terms of relationships they hold with others. looking out for the good of others, family, community
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individualist cultures intimacy
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individual goals are promoted over group goals, people define their identity in terms of personal attributes such as wealth, social status, education level and marital status. Looking out for YOURSELF.
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Emotional attachment
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CORE OF ALL RELATIONSHIPS. Characterized by feelings that promote sense of closeness, bonding w/ one another, and connection. promote well-being of another.
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Three-pronged process of intimacy
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1. disclosing things that are personal and private to ourselves 2. experiencing positive feelings about ourselves and the other person involved in relationship 3. having interpersonal interactions that serve to advance/reflect partners' understanding of each other
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Intimacy is a _________.
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PROCESS. dynamic and ever-changing. change and progression occur over time.
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8 Components of intimacy
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1. Conflict Resolution - manage conflict 2. Affection - express affection and show feelings 3. Cohesion - degree of value in relationship 4. Sexuality - communicate sexual needs 5. Identity - keep individual identity w/in relationship 6. Compatibility - how partners relate 7. Expressiveness - know personal thoughts/feelings 8. Autonomy - independence from family of origin
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Spiritual intimacy
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MOST powerful type of intimacy
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Self-disclosure
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exposing yourself not physically (sex), but emotionally. allowing self to be vulnerable.
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responsiveness
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both parties are contributing. heightens relationship satisfaction
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types of intimates: intimate
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capable of experiencing closeness, emotional attachment
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Trust vs. Mistrust Stage
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Infancy, 0-24 months. Child develops belief that his/her caregivers will provide secure and trustful environment
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Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
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toddlerhood, 2-4 years. child develops independence and free will; feels shame if he/she doesn't use free will appropriately. saying NO.
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Initiative vs. Guilt
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early childhood, 4-6 years. "age of acquiring": child learns to explore environment and acquires newfound set of skills; newfound sense of initiative and accomplishment
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Industry vs. Inferiority
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middle childhood, 7-12 years. "age of mastery" - child masters skills acquired during early childhood
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Empathy
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the ability to put oneself in another person's shoes, understand someone else's situations, express emotional concern for another person
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identity, individuation, autonomy
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process undergone during adolescence: identity - sense of "who I am" individuation - forming identity separate from family autonomy - self of independence and self-governing person w/in context of relationships
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Females, males
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_______ attach more emotional importance to their friends than _______ do
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Men, women
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_____ are less expressive/supportive towards friends than _______ are
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Men, women
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_______ are less likely to turn to their friends in time of trouble than _______ are
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Females, males
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____ more strongly emphasize mutual understanding , security, and mutual exploration of interests than do ______
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males, females
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more so than ______, _______ discuss family problems and activities, personal dreams, fears, personal problems, and secret
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males, girls
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_____ emphasize activity and achievement in their group friendships; they show less interest in reciprocity/mutuality, and support/caring than do _____
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males, females
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____ discuss sports and hobbies more so than _____
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barriers to developing intimacy
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family environment, past families and past experiences
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Fear of intimacy - fear of...
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-failure -vulnerable -rejection -being smothered -sex -losing someone we love -taking a risk -accepting responsibility of intimate relationship -experiencing anger/hostility in relationship -abandonment -being "found out"
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physically closeness
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although meaning of intimacy varies from relationship to relationship, ______ is not necessarily a component of intimacy
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personal context
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____ includes factors specific to each person, such as personality traits; attitudes and beliefs, the overall status of relationship; emotional reactions to intimacy; willingness to self-disclose, and each partner's intimacy needs, goals and motives
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individuation
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adolescents begin process of _______, forming an identity that is separate than that of their family of origin
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types of intimates: Pseudointimate
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intimate on surface but lacks depth; rarely goes beyond friendship
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types of intimates: Preintimate
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capable of intimacy and may want it, but lack ability to commit
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types of intimates: Stereotyped relationships
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casual relationships, lack of commitment
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types of intimates: Isolates
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socially withdrawn, no need for relationship
