Decision-making is human life is very important undertaking. Any decision an individual makes must have the consequences either good or bad (Dahl, 612). It was at age of 16 when I started to imagine of having a little boy. This was due to the fact that I felt challenged by my friend Jessica who had given birth to a very handsome child. At this time I decided to drop out of school to get married to my boyfriend with a motivation of giving birth to a Babyboy.
At age of 17 I dropped out of school and got married as I had thought. Unlike my family background, Jessica’s parents were very supportive and they offered full support to her but on my case no one could provide support since my parents were not financially well-up.
I got pregnant during the first year of marriage but I could not get any support from my parents nor could I get it from husband since he was as young as I was and jobless. The only thing I could think of during my pregnancy was how the hell I my going to give birth. This is the worst decision I have ever done in my life.
It was such a stressful life I had for making that wrong decision despite much advice from my parents. Being very young I decided to get married at age of 17 years. The spouse to whom I got married to was at age of 19 years. My parents and other community members were all against my decision but I could not listen their advice since I believed nobody can make me lose my lover. The worst of...
all this decision made me drop out of school to get married thus it could guarantee future unemployment, life full of hardships as well as possibility of having so many children.
Like my case my spouse had also dropped out of school due to poor parental upgrading as well as negative influence from peers. During the first year of marriage, we gave birth to a child. At this time we were all teenagers and we wanted both financial and emotional assistance which only remained a dream and lots of frustrations. These frustrations later grew since I started feeling self-denial to development and education.
In addition to the survival frustrations, maturity level become a problem to me as I was playing the roles of mature mothers while still in my teenage. This could actually give me psychological torture since I really felt unfit for the roles I was playing. Being a girl early marriage exposed me to early pregnancy and childbirth which in turn made me undergo a very severe health problems, early childhood care as well as emotional and psychological stress such as denial of freedom, forced sexual relations.
The young age made me remain vulnerable and submissive thus I remained subject to domestic violence and abandonment. This kept me full of frustrations as I could not predict whether the family will progress peacefully or not. As the time passed over, the immaturity in the family made I and my husband develop some differences which at
first instances appeared to be minor but which grew big after a short period of time. This caused more frustrations in the family hence increased psychological stress. Later on my husband could not provide for the family due to financial difficulties which later led to the marriage breakup.
Early marriage is very dangerous to teenagers as it makes them drop out school, leads to early pregnancies, early childhood care as well as financial difficulties to cater for the family. Early marriage is also against the norms and values of the society (Waldfogel et al., 375). Therefore young children in the society should be taught on dangers of early marriages and receive adequate advice from their elders on all side effects of early marriage and how to avoid them.