Gottman Method Couples Therapy – Flashcards
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, therapist coach couples to develop what
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the interaction patterns that distinguish successful marriages from marriages that end in break up
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are the four horsemen
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Defensiveness Criticism Contempt Stonewalling
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, which of the 4 horsemen are seen mostly in marriages heading for divorce
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Contempt
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, couples who stay together maintain what during conflict
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5:1 positive ratio of positive-to-negative interactions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, couples who stay together maintain what during non conflictual interactions
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20:1 positive ratio of positive-to-negative interactions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what does not predict divorce
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anger, but contempt and defensiveness does
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, how is Quid Pro Quo and Contingency Contracting seen
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characteristic of unhappy marriages and should not be used in couples therapy
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what does the intervention process include
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-extensive exercises -identifying where and how improvements can be made
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, couples therapy should be characterized by what 5 things
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-A positive experience -Primarily Dyadic -Emotional Learning -Easy -Nondiealistic
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, therapist should avoid what
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criticizing or implying blame
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, therapy should be dyadic instead of what
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triadic with the therapist moderating all interactions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is "state dependent" regarding learning
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in order to change an emotional state, couples must be in that emotional state and then work through it
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are "Easy Interventions"
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Nonthreatening
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, the therapist serves what role
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a relationship coach, empowering couples to take ownership of their relationship
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, the therapist does not do with a couple during difficult conversations
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soothe, rather then coach them on how to soothe themselves and each other
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what predicts divorce with 85% accuracy
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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Criticism
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implies something is globally wrong with the partner
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Defensiveness
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Used to ward off attack
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Contempt
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-Best predictor of divorce -seeing oneself as superior to one's partner
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Stonewalling
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withdraws from interaction, either physically or mentally
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, distressed couples have what positive to negative interactions during conflict
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1:1
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is negative affect reciprocity
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the increased probability that one's partner's emotions will be negative immediately following negativity in the other
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, negative affect reciprocity is the most consistent correlation of what
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marital satisfaction and dissatisfaction
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are repair attempts
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when one partner tries to "make nice" and end the conflict, soothe the other, or soften the complaint
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what do distressed couples frequently do with repair attempts and what are the results
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reject them higher number of of total attempts
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is paired together to predict with 97.5% accuracy whether a couple will divorce in the next five years
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failed repair attempts and the Four Horsemen
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what predicts with 80% accuracy of couples ending in divorce
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Ability to accept influence from their partner
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Harsh Start up
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Raising an issue using negative affect in the first minute of the conversation
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Distance and Isolation Cascade
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when problems go unresolved, often couples become emotionally disengaged
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is characterized by Distance and Isolation Cascade
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-"Everything is okay" -absence of emotional expression -lack of friendship -unacknowledged tension -high levels of physiological arousal in conflict -few efforts to soothe each other
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are the 3 different types of stable, happy marriages
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-Volatile Couples -Validating Couples -Confict-Avoiding Couples
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is a Volatile Couple
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Couples that are more emotionally expressive, expressing more positive and negative emotions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is a Validating Couple
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Couples that have moderate emotional expression and strong marital friendships
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Confict-Avoiding Couples
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Couples that have the least emotional expression, minimize problems, prefer to talk about the strengths of their marriage, and end conversations on a note of solidarity
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are the two elements for marriages that work
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-Overall sense of positive affect -Ability to reduce negative affect during conflict
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are the seven key aspects of The Sound Marital Hosue
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-Love Maps -Fondness & Admiration System -Turning Towards vs Turning Away -Positive Sentiment Override -Problem Solving -Making Dreams Cone True -Creating Shared Meaning
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are Love Maps in the Sound Marital House
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a cognitive understanding of who your partner is and what makes him/her happy is a basic component of marital friendship
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is the Fondness & Admiration System the Sound Marital House
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the amount of respect and affection partners feel for each other and are willing to express
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Turning Towards vs Turing Away the Sound Marital House
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-The Emotional Love Bank -the habitual turning toward and opening to each other emotionally non conflict interactions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Positive Sentiment Override the Sound Marital House
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giving your partner "the benefit of the doubt"
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Problem Solving the Sound Marital House
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how couples argue about the same topics
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Solving the Solvable in Problem Solving of the Sound Marital House
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stable couples are able to successfully resolve solvable problems
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Dialogue with Perpetual Problems in Problem Solving of the Sound Marital House
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happy couples avoid gridlock and instead find a way to continue talking about their perpetual problems and core personality differences
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Physiological Soothing in Problem Solving of the Sound Marital House
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In successful marriages, partners are able to soothe themselves and their partners, enabling everyone to calm down
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Making Dreams Come True in the Sound Marital House
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couples avoid gridlock, especially around perpetual problems, by working together to make each partner's dreams come true
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Creating Shared Meaning in the Sound Marital House
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happy couples develop a marital "culture" with rituals of connection and shared meanings, roles and goals
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is the typical session format
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-Catch-up -Pre-intervention Marital Interaction -Give an intervention -Spouses make the intervention -Got resistance -No resistance -Homework
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Catch-up
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-in session, the couple checks in on marital events, homework, and major issues -they are directed to talk to one another,not report to the therapist
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Pre-interventions Marital Interaction
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The Boxing Round - the couple interact 6-10 minutes, usually by discuss a difficult topic
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Give an Intervention
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follows the interaction when the therapist asks the couple for an intervention before suggesting one, based on the premise that people tend to accept their own ideas better
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is The Spouses Make the Intervention Their Own
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the couple discuss their thoughts on how to improve their interactions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Got Resistance
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addressing any resistance
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is No Resistance
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the therapist instructs them to engage in another 6 minute interaction to practice the suggested changes
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what is Homework
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Tasks are assigned based on the interactions in the session
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are 4 examples of Love Map questions
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-Who are your partner's friends -What are the most recent important events in your partner's life -What are some current stresses in your partner's life -What are your partner's current worries
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are the rules to help soften startup
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-Be concise -Complain but don't blame -Start with something postiive -Use "I" instead of "You" -Describe what is happening rather than judge -Ask for what you need -Be polite and appreciative -Express vulnerable emotions
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In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, what are Dreams with Conflict
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-deeper meanings and dreams that are beneath his/her rigid stance in the gridlock -partners are directed to ask each other questions in relation to a perpetual problem -What do you believe about this issue -What do you want to happen
