Grief a Temporary Matter Essay Example

he would never tell Shoba, because he still Loved her then, and it was the one thing in her life that She had wanted to be a surprise. ” Pg 26 Author Interpreter of Maladies Shukumar was talking about the gender of their still born baby in the quote above, he had kept it from Shoba because he loved her and knew how much it had meant to her but now that it was coming to an end and the love he had once felt was now different it was time to let go of the secret just has he had to let go her.

Males and females respond to grief differently and handle there emotions on different scales. Shukumar could barely pull himself out of bed and was unable to study or communicate with Shoba, he cooked frozen meals each night instead of beautiful cooked Italian or Indian: “He hadn’t left the house at all that day, or the day before”, this quote proves that Shukumar had become depressed and riddled with grief unable to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

Shoba had dealt the opposite to Shukumar she threw herself in-to work because when she was at home she felt a constant reminder to the loss and also Shukumar, Shoba stopped cleaning the house which she had done with pride before the tragedy. “The more Shoba stayed out, the more she began putting in extra hours at work and taking on additional projects, the more he wanted to stay in, not even leaving to get the mail, or to buy fruit or wine at the stores by the trolley stop. (Quote from A temporary matter) Grief is

a part of life, when the couple finally learnt to let go of one another they were able to begin the healing process of grief. Grief will run your life for as long as you’re willing to let it, sometimes the only to overcome loss is change, a new beginning just as the couple finally surrender to, in the end they embraced change and faced the truth that they were no longer who they used to be and were no longer meant to be together.