Ch 3 Learning to accept yourself. – Flashcards
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Compare and contrast self-concept and self-esteem.
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Self-Concept - Your paradigm about yourself How you would describe yourself Self-esteem - How you judge and evaluate yourself based on this paradigm
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Compare and contrast ideal and real self.
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Ideal Self - The person you feel you should be Real Self - The person you feel you actually are
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Define and explain the concept of self-esteem. Include an explanation of self-esteem as a universal concept and in the context of specific cultures.
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Today thought of as a socially constructed emotion and not necessarily stable over time Correlated with effectiveness in our culture, not necessarily in others Unrealistically high self-esteem inhibits effectiveness and can be detrimental to well-being A universal concept of self-esteem should include: Self-liking: a sense of social worth Self-competence: a sense of personal efficacy
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What is self-worth based on? Explain.
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Having multiple sources is more effective than a single source -Family Support -Competition -Appearance -God's Love -Academic competence -Virtue -Other's Approval Perhaps most effective is to have "non-contingent" self-esteem based on nothing
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List characteristics of high/low self-esteem.
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People with high self-esteem -Believe that they are worthwhile and valuable -Accept compliments -Are able to give themselves positive self-messages -Have trust in themselves People with low self-esteem -Believe that their worth is based on their accomplishments or the opinion of others -Doubt themselves -Are pessimistic about themselves, others, and the world
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What is the pathological critic? Provide examples.
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-A negative inner voice that attacks and judges you -A misguided critic or coach -Rewards and reinforcement are more effective ways to learn
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Unconditional and conditional positive regard.
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-Unconditional positive regard: Refers to parents acceptance of their children as having intrinsic merit regardless of their behavior at the moment. -Conditional positive regard: When a parent judge the child's value and deliver their love based on the acceptability of the child's behavior.
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What are conditions of worth?
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Children develop this, meaning they only think they are worthwhile or lovable if they behave in certain ways or meet certain standards.
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What is the malevolent attitude?
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The belief that one is surrounded by enemies.
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Authoritarian parenting style
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Have a restrictive style of parenting focusing on following rules and assuming that the child is incompetent.
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Authoritative parenting style
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Are warm and nurturing while at the same time setting meaningful limits and controls for the child.
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Permissive indifferent parents
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Parents are uninvolved in their child's life.
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Permissive-indulgent parents
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Are very involved in the child's life and often very loving, but they fail to set limits or provide meaningful control over the child's behavior.
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How do you boost your self-esteem?
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-Uncover irrational beliefs -Overcome the tyranny of the "shoulds" -Eliminate cognitive distortions -Learn alternative ways to frame mistakes -Love your inner child -The Positive Psychology Approach - Virtues and Signature Strengths
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What is the tyranny of the "should's" and how do you overcome it?
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-I should be perfect -I should find a quick solution to every problem. -I should never feel negative emotions -I should always be generous -I should know, understand, and foresee everything -I should never make mistakes -I should always be busy and productive -I should protect my children from all pain -I should never get sick -I should make enough money so my family can afford ______ -I should be totally self-reliant -My emotions should be constant -I should never feel sexually attracted to ___ -I should care for everyone who cares for me -I should always put the needs of others first -I should be more like other people Stop shoulding on things
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What are the six core virtues?
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1- Wisdom and Knowledge - Cognitive Strengths involving the acquisition and use of knowledge 2 -Courage - Emotional Strengths involving the exercise of will to accomplish goals in the face of external or internal opposition 3- Love and Humanity -Interpersonal Strengths involving tending and befriending others 4- Justice - Civic Strengths that support healthy community life 5- Temperance -Self-Regulatory Strengths that protect against excess 6- Spirituality and Transcendence - Metaphysical Strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide meaning
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What are signature strengths? Provide examples.
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Wisdom and Knowledge -Curiosity -Love of Learning -Judgment / Critical Thinking / Open Mindedness -Creativity -Emotional Intelligence -Perspective Courage -Bravery and Valor -Perseverance and Industriousness -Honesty / Integrity / Genuineness Humanity and Love -Kindness and Generosity -Loving and Allowing Yourself to be Loved Justice -Citizenship / Duty / Teamwork / Loyalty -Fairness and Equity -Leadership Temperance -Self Control -Caution and Discretion -Humility and Modest Transcendence -Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence -Gratitude -Optimism and Hope -Spirituality -Forgiveness and Mercy -Humor and Playfulness -Enthusiasm / Zest / Passion
