How to Have A
by Roderick C. Meredith
Here are “keys’ to help make your
marriage special! These insights and
tested principles will help you build
your marriage into a precious
relationship of joy and beauty.
HJM4 Edition 1.3, May 1996
This booklet is not to be sold!
It has been provided as a free public educational
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A© 1993 GLOBAL CHURCH OF GOD
All rights reserved. Printed in the U.S.A.
Editor in Chief
Roderick C. Meredith
Raymond F. McNair
Jeffrey H. Patton
Thomas E. Robinson
Assistant to the Editor
Bradley J. Mitchell
Ronald B. Nelson
J. Edwin Pope
Eric T. Myers
With tears in their eyes, dozens and scores of women have told me how miserable their marriages were. They obviously
wish with all their hearts that things were better, but they don’t know what to do.
“My husband won’t really open up and talk with me about our problems”, many women say.
“My psychologist told me to go have an affair and I would feel better,” one woman said. “But I know that’s w...
rong and I just
can’t do that!”
In our “now generation,” most folks don’t think of the long-term consequences of their actions, and our acceptance of “quickie”
marriages and divorces only compounds the problem. Why try to work through all the problems in your marriage when you
can just divorce and feel better right now?
In an outstanding recent article, former Secretary of Education, William J. Bennett, made these insightful comments: “…but
during the same recent 30-year period there has been a 560% increase in violent crime; a 419% increase in illegitimate births; a
quadrupling in divorce rates; a tripling of the percentage of children living in single-parent homes; more than a 200%
increase in the teenage suicide rate; and a drop of almost 80 points in SAT scores….!”
If you wish to avoid the misery of this foolish generation, then read carefully and prayerfully the pages to follow. For we are
going to discuss seven vital keys to building and enriching the very basis of all decent society–your marriage and your family.
I. Commitment is basic
The expression “till death do us part” may seem old fashioned or passA© to many young people. But those same couples may be
suffering loneliness, emptiness and misery if they leave that concept out of their marriages.
Yet today, most people take for granted the modern option of leaving their mate and forsaking their marriage vows. Many
couples plan for the eventuality of divorce by having a lawyer write up a prenuptial agreement. Then they promise to stay
together for life, but insist o
acting “prudently” to protect their assets in case the marriage doesn’t last.
This idea may seem wise and prudent, but is it really?
The common acceptance of the “escape hatch” of an easy divorce creates a vicious cycle. The more some people divorce, the
easier it seems for others to do likewise. And the breakdown of a society has begun!
Nearly all thoughtful men and women realize that a stable home and family is basic for a decent society. As our homes and
marriages come apart, so the wildness, ruthlessness and violence in our society will increase.
It is vital that we all grasp that the basis for marriage itself is the supreme purpose of our Creator! That’s right! If you leave the
great God who made us male and female out of the picture, then human reason is the only basis for anything–and absolute
chaos will ensue.
It is God who said:
“Let us make man in our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the
air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His
own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to
them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and
over every living thing that moves on the earth” (Genesis 1:26-28).
God instituted marriage
We see here that it is God who made us male and female. And His first command to humans was to “multiply”–obviously
implying marriage and home.
God the Father is the Author of marriage. In Matthew 19, Jesus gave us some principles concerning marriage. The Pharisees
tested His teaching on the subject by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” (Matthew 19:3).
In other words, can a man put away his wife for just any reason? They distorted what Moses had said in the Old Testament
about putting a wife away, and would even use a pimple, a wart or almost anything as an excuse to put their wives away.
And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and
female,” and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become
one flesh”? (verse 4-5).
God made the man and the woman for each other. He created the man and his wife to complement one another physically,
psychologically, emotionally and mentally so they could live a balanced and happy life together.
Jesus taught that a man should leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife!
If you do have to bring senile or infirm in-laws to your home later, after the marriage is firmly established, then that’s different.
But at the beginning, and
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